Change is not a dirty word!
Change is not a dirty word!
We are often told change is constant, and I
think that we all recognize that this is a fact of life. This constant change is,
I am sure, the reason why we are sometimes tired, a little jittery and above all,
So, what is change and why is it constant?
The reason it is constant is obvious. As humans
we continue to grow, not only in stature â€“ but also intellectually. Our powers of
reasoning become fully developed and we understand that standing still is not
an option â€“ from school through to university or college, in our work
environment, and the continual changing face of our growing family.
We face this continuous forward momentum and we
deal with the changes that life thrusts upon us. We moan, groan and stress. But
in the end â€“ in most cases â€“ we accept the change or look for another
alternative and move on, readying ourselves for the next challenge life throws
According to the Oxford dictionary, there are
many slightly different meanings of the word change. For example; as a verb: â€œmake or become differentâ€,
or as a noun: â€an act or process through which something becomes differentâ€. One of the more pleasant meanings given is â€œarrive
at a fresh phase; become new â€œ. While this has specific reference to the moon, I
believe should also be specific to retirement.
Retirement is a huge change that requires some thought
and planning. However, in this instance I am not talking about the financial
aspects of retirement. I believe that the financial planning can often be the
easiest aspect when approaching retirement.
I have a plan for my retirement, and I am
confident it will be a fresh phase in my life, however I am concerned about one
aspect. Can I learn to relax?
What do I mean?
For most of us, when we do retire we will have
been working 40 to 50 hours per week for between 40 and 50 years. Now we will have
this time to yourself, to relax. But have we learnt how to do nothing.
Why do I ask this question?
In my case I am not sure I have learnt how to
do nothing, without feeling guilty about the fact that I am sitting, relaxing
and not stressing about work or life in general.
So, I decided to do some research and I thought
I might share a couple of insights into what I have learnt;
- Meditation and yoga are the
obvious skills I will need to learn
- Practice sleeping, resting and
staring into space, which I am sure my partner is going to be very excited
about and will become a good excuse for not cleaning the yard
- Physical activity, but at a
much slower pace than my normal approach
- Spending as much time as
possible outside and in a natural environment
- Avoiding people who constantly
complain about their own life
- Reading, and learning to play
a musical instrument â€“ not the Kazoo!
These are just a couple of suggestions from a
large amount of written and digital material which is available.
Now, I am unsure how successful I will be in my
retirement at some of suggestions, but I do look forward to the day when I can
give 100% of my attention and time to the problem.
Any suggestions are gratefully accepted!